Rejected by Your Family

“Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” (Psalm 27:10)

Rejection by one’s own family is one of the hardest forms of rejection to overcome, because this rejection comes from those who are supposed to know and love you most.

Even though parents may not realize it’s happening, the rejected one certainly is aware of it and often wears the scars of that rejection on into adulthood. Parental rejection has been defined as "the absence or the significant withdrawal of warmth, affection, or love.”

Here are some ways that parental rejection shows up:

1 – Parents who never say “I love you”
2 – Parents who never say “I’m proud of you”
3 – Parents who compare you to another sibling or to someone else’s perfect child
4 – Parents who never hug you
5 – Parents who show no interest in you
6 – Parents who love conditionally (“if you do this, then I might love you”)
7 – Parents who withhold love – perhaps because love was withheld from them 

Sometimes when we cry out to God about this rejection, we tend to forget that Jesus experienced rejection Himself – even rejection from His own family – those who should have known and loved Him the most.

After Jesus had restored a man’s withered hand on the Sabbath, healed a multitude of sick people, and appointed twelve men to be His apostles, this happened:

Jesus entered a house, and the crowd gathered again so that they were not even able to eat. When his family heard this, they set out to restrain him, because they said, “He’s out of his mind.” (Mark 3:20)

Even Jesus’ family rejected His ideas and His teaching – and even thought He was “out of His mind.” 

Rejection in families happens, and that may be why the psalmist gave us the words of comfort that began this devotion: “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” (Psalm 27:10) He will provide the warmth, the affection, the love you long for.

If you have experienced rejection from your parents or other family members, claim the promise that the psalmist has given us – and know that you are loved perfectly by the One whose faithful love endures forever. (Psalm 136:1)

By Judy Shrout






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